Being head of a school is a privilege and, as I step down to emigrate, I can reflect on the pleasure of working with numerous parents to ensure that their children turn into balanced and rounded young men and women who will contribute to society now and throughout their lives. More often than not, we’re lucky in schools: whilst you may be faced with ‘Kevin and Perry’ when the children are at home, we see a different side to the children. Boys and girls who sit in front of their games’ consoles at home are fully engaged in life at boarding school (so much so that their parents complain they never hear from them!) and children who refuse to help with the dishes at home quite happily get on with “squad” (the chores our boarders do each day).
I have been asked in the past why we seem to get the best out of the children and why they often respond to our rules and regulations whilst rebelling at home. The answer is quite simple: we don’t love them. Don’t get me wrong, I pride myself on the care we show to every child here and I am still in touch with pupils I taught 19 years ago. However, during their time in school, whilst the pupils pull the heartstrings of their parents to gain a reaction, we can stand back with a greater degree of objectivity. It’s far easier for us to say no, particularly when we are considering the greater good to be done. So please, don’t be surprised if we don’t love your cherub. I’m sure we like them but loving them is your job – even if it does make life a little more difficult for you!
Fyling Hall School
2008 – 2012